In the Force versus Reason divide, Shame is definitely on the side of Force.
On the Side of Force when people are wrong we Punish them to make them so full of Fear they'll avoid being wrong in the future. The feeling of Shame is what we feel when we Punish ourselves. (Or perhaps what we feel while we await the punishment we expect. Shame is a sort of wincing as we await the blow that we expect to fall.)
Shame can be carried all the way to suicide. In fact it is perhaps an essential component of most suicides.
Whenever anyone ever feels shame they should try to remember it's part of the violent monkey World of Force and dismiss it from their minds.
On the side of Reason, of course we all make mistakes. We constantly make mistakes. In fact our every moment is always to some extent a mistake. We are never acting perfectly. Life is constant failure. And should be a constant process of recognizing failures and continously improving.
But because instead we're in the Force World we can't stand to think that we're constantly failing. All that failing would mean constant punishment. It would mean a sort of mental equivalent of constant wincing waiting to be 'hit' which is the equivalent of punishing ourselves (Shame.)
Rather than do that we for the most part instead become uncritical of ourselves. We become Closeminded.
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Friday, July 31, 2009
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Every song file will result in a song!
Maybe that's not quite the way to go about it? Eh.
66 did grow on me. But actually anything can grow on me. Random crap can grow on me. Random chaos can occasionally sound really good once I've a memory of it. That's a problem maybe.
Always looking for problems I am. It wears on me.
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If you feel shame when you do something wrong, you're liable to not want to face the possibility that you might be wrong. To be humiliated, to be made to feel ashamed is the stuff of force instead of reason. The person who associates being wrong with pain, being wrong with being ashamed or humiliated, being ostracized from society; such a person is going to be relatively closeminded.
The ideal is to view life as a continual learning process and to not feel shame or humiliation when you've been wrong but to simply recognize your mistakes, make what ammends you can and to continue to be openminded.
Shame, threats, expressions of anger, violence, humiliation, ostracization, cuss words, etc... these are all turning to force over reason and result in closed minds.
...shame is tied closely to conforming to whatever social norms a society happens to have. In the present this largely means obediance to power. And thus being a nonconformist means being ostracized by society and thus feeling shame.
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