Fake smiles again

An awful truth about human relationships is how even the most intelligent and nonconformist, when talking to a similar fellow person, feel the need to apologize for excessive unhappiness.

So then what? We feel ashamed for feeling unhappy. We feel as if we must hide our unhappiness. As if it wasn't bad enough being unhappy in the first place.

What is the point of having friends in the first place if you must hide your unhappiness to them? This is an awful thing and it's perfectly true. This is a true aspect of human relations. FWIW, it's not true with me.

This goes back somewhat to the fake smile I suppose. One can try to conjure/create a happy world by pretending to be happy to their "friend", out of consideration for them we pretend to be happy when we're not... I thought it so awful. It is another framing of the same problem; like as with Life Is Beautiful; with the concept of panglossianism, etc, do we try to see this world for what it is and Really change it. Or just immediately change it on some much smaller level... Where it hasn't actually changed but we've tried to perceive it slightly different... Where we fake smile. Where we are more considerate to others... (In a sense so to speak...)

One can really feel that smile after a while. And it's truly living in a fantasy world that has nothing to do with reality. And ensures that reality will not change. Except well, it does change a little. You have a day of real actual happiness if you and someone else both are playing such a game.

And if you don't have any happiness, after a while you won't be able to stand going on. When you look back at the past and it's all unhappy it starts to be very difficult to continue.

It does seem to be a question of degree. In this world perhaps a bit of the fake smile, the fantasy panglossed world, and other times spent actually facing it for what it is.