Qualities to look for to better avoid more crass treatment by yet another person.

1. Book reading. (Or corporate TV?)
2. Ethical stances above the status quo. (Or primarily concerned with fitting? Pleasing others or pleasing over-I?)
3. Lack of demonization of others. (Furthermore do you tell someone when you disagree with them or just say nothing and avoid them in the future?) This means being intolerant of intolerance in a way.